How to Talk About Sex Without Taboos (And Without Embarrassment!)

Let's get this straight: talking about sex shouldn't be harder than ordering a pizza. But the reality is a little different: some people blush, some change the subject, and some pretend that sex doesn't exist... until it's under the sheets. 😏 Here's the thing: good sexual communication can transform your intimate life from "ok" to "OMG" . So, if you want to learn how to talk about sex without embarrassment (and maybe even have fun while doing it), you've come to the right place! 🚀 Let's find out how to talk about sex without taboos (and without embarrassment!)

🎤 1. Why is Talking About Sex So Hard?

Sex is everywhere: in movies, in commercials, in songs… and yet, when it comes to talking about it seriously, many people freeze. Why?

🔹 Fear of judgement → "What if he/she thinks I'm weird?"
🔹 Shame → "Do I really have to say that I like being touched there?"
🔹 Lack of habit → No one taught us to talk about it without feeling uncomfortable.

But here’s the secret: the more you talk about it, the more natural it becomes. And that’s where practice comes in…

💬 2. How to Start a Conversation About Sex

We know: throwing out “let’s talk about sex” can sound weird. So, here are some ways to open the conversation in a natural, low-pressure way:

✅ Use context → After a hot movie or an interesting article (like this one 😉), ask: "What do you think?"
✅ Play with irony → "You know I read that 78% of couples don't talk about sex? Do we want to be in the 22%?"
✅ Speak lightly → Avoid a too serious tone, ask open questions and leave room for dialogue.
✅ Use the “I’d like to” technique → Instead of saying “I don’t like it when you do that,” try “I’d like to try this with you.”

💡 Pro Tip: If you're too shy to talk to someone in person, try texting them! A text can help break the ice.

🔥 3. The Right Time: When (and When NOT) to Talk About Sex

There are perfect times to talk about sex… and times when it’s best not to.

When YES:

✅ Outside the bedroom → At dinner, during a walk, in a relaxed moment.
✅ When you are both calm → No arguments, no pressure.
✅ After a positive experience → "I really enjoyed last night, do you know what we could try next time?"

When NOT:

❌ During sex itself (if it's a serious conversation) → Better to enjoy the moment!
❌ Immediately after a “failure” → If something went wrong, talk about it when you are more relaxed.
❌ In moments of tension → If you are already nervous about something else, the conversation could turn into an argument.

💡 Pro Tip: If you want to introduce something new (like an erotic game or a new sex toy), do it lightly and curiously, without forcing anything.

❤️ 4. How to Express Your Wishes Without Fear

Okay, you want to try something new or tell your partner what you like. But how do you do it without feeling awkward?

🎯 Give concrete examples → Instead of "I want more foreplay," try "I love it when you kiss my neck slowly, could we do that more often?"
🎯 Be positive → Focus on what you like, not what you don't like.
🎯 Use play → Asking playful questions ( "What do you think my secret fantasy is?" ) makes everything lighter.
🎯 Don't wait for the other to guess → Sex is not a quiz! Expressing your desires makes everything more exciting.

💡 Pro Tip: If you're really not sure how to say it, use a list of things to try together and choose the ones that intrigue you the most.

🔄 5. Listening is Important (Even in Sex!)

Talking about sex isn’t just about saying what you want: listening to your partner is just as important.

🛑 Mistakes to avoid:
❌ Don't interrupt → If the other person is opening up, let them finish.
❌ Don't judge → Even if something isn't for you, accept that your partner has his or her own desires.
❌ Don't downplay it → If he/she says he/she doesn't like something, take it seriously.

💡 Pro Tip: Ask questions! "Did you like what we did yesterday?" , "Is there anything you'd like to try?"

The more your partner feels listened to, the more open they will be in communicating with you. And trust works wonders under the sheets. 🔥

🔑 6. Overcoming Differences in Desire and Taste

What if you want to try something your partner doesn’t? Or vice versa?

🌟 Rule number one: Never force anything. Consent is essential.
🌟 Rule number two: Explore compromises! Your partner may not be ready now, but they may be in the future.

💡 Fun exercise: Make a list of fantasies , with three columns:
1️⃣ "Yes, I want to try it!"
2️⃣ "Maybe, but let's talk about it"
3️⃣ "No, I don't care"

Compare the lists and find out what intrigues you both!

🔥 Talking About Sex Makes Sex Better!

The more you communicate, the more comfortable you become. The more comfortable you become, the more amazing sex becomes. It's a chain of pleasure that starts with a simple conversation!

So, break the ice, ask questions, listen and have fun! Sex should not be a taboo, but an experience to be lived (and told) without fear.

And you, how open are you in talking about sex? Try to do it more naturally and you will see that your life under the sheets will benefit greatly. 😉🔥